What to wear to a funeral
At a funeral, clothes express respect, not style. In Lithuania and most of Europe the traditional colour is black; navy, charcoal and dark brown also work. Choose simple cuts, covered-up clothes and comfortable shoes – part of the ceremony often takes place outdoors, at the cemetery.
For women
- A dark below-the-knee dress or suit
- Dark trousers with a blouse and jacket
- A dark coat in the cold months
- Closed, comfortable low-heeled shoes – you'll walk cemetery paths
For men
- A dark suit – black, navy or charcoal
- A white or pale shirt
- A dark, plain tie
- Black leather shoes
What to avoid
- Bright colours and prints
- Sequins, low necklines, short skirts
- Sportswear and jeans
- Lots of jewellery and strong perfume
Tips
- If the family asks for a particular colour (sometimes the deceased's favourite), follow the request.
- In winter, warm dark layers: it feels colder at the cemetery than you expect.
- For children, dark, neat but comfortable clothes.
For family and close mourners
The closest family usually dresses most strictly – all black. Other guests may choose dark, muted colours. Often there's a wake first, then a funeral mass and burial at the cemetery, so clothes must work indoors and outdoors for several hours. Women may want a wrap or jacket to cover their shoulders in church.
Business formal
Women: A dark suit (skirt or trousers) + a blouse or shirt + closed shoes.
Men: A dark suit + white or light-blue shirt + silk tie + black oxfords.
Business professional
Women: A suit or blazer + tailored trousers/skirt + blouse + closed shoes.
Men: A suit + shirt + tie (usually) + leather shoes.
Frequently asked
01Do you have to wear black to a funeral?
Not necessarily, but it's the safest choice. Navy, grey, brown and dark green are also fine.
02Can you wear jeans to a funeral?
Better not. If you have nothing else, choose dark, clean jeans with a dark jacket or sweater.
03What to wear to a funeral in summer?
Dark, light fabrics – linen, cotton, crepe. Short sleeves are fine, but avoid very revealing clothes.
04Can you wear sneakers to a funeral?
Better not. If health or the walk demands comfort, choose fully black, minimalist ones without logos.
05What should a man wear to a funeral without a suit?
Dark trousers, a white or dark shirt, a dark sweater or jacket and black leather shoes.
